Relationships and Decisions

There comes a point in our lives where we are faced with a tough decision to make. On the one hand, there is the decision that makes sense. It is the decision that is realistic. Then there is the decision that is based on feelings. This one may be skewed either way depending on other factors in the game. The realistic decision is based on fact. If all the facts add up, or if the realistic decision and the decision based on feelings are the same then the answer is easy.

Where it gets complicated is when the feeling and emotion towards a decision is confounded by wants. This can debase the whole decision making process and cause some major confusion. Take, for instance, a relationship. A partner leaving. The partner may have had a just and sound reason for doing so. Perhaps even to the point of it being the best decision for both people involved. However, when the person that has been left ends up wanting their partner back it clouds any sort of decision-making. The person who has been left is absolutely determined to somehow get that person back, even though the best course of action is to let them go. It doesn't happen with just relationships. It happens whenever there is someone who is determined in wanting some particular thing. The difference between wanting a person and wanting a particular thing is "free will".

What if this person wants their partner back and is willing to use everything in their power to get them back into their lives. I've perused the Law of Attraction forums and there are so many people who want to know how to use The Secret to get someone that broke up with them back. To me, this is almost silly. Most of the people who want their partners back admit that they were not perfect for each other. There is usually some fatal flaw in the relationship that has caused the other person to leave it. Wanting to have this person back and using the Secret for it is not the right thing to do. If you believe that everything happens for a purpose, then you must believe that they left you for a purpose. This 'purpose' is not just their reasons for it, it goes deeper than that. It comes down to some lesson that your soul or non-physical self believed that you needed to learn.

Trying to attract a certain person into your life is almost morally wrong. It's like forcing someone to do something that they don't want to do. They left, and then are forced to come back? No, that doesn't sound right. Instead, it would be a good idea to make a list of the qualities that are wanted in a perfect partner - write them down or make a mental list. Then the universe knows exactly what to create for you. Now, this person who left may pop back into your life again because it is the exact person that you asked the universe for, but if it isn't, then you can expect that someone even better will come along. Just trust it.


I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about a recent break-up and I find that if I just write it all down, it helps me gain some clarity on the situation. Hopefully, reading this post will help others gain some clarity as well if they are in the same situation.

How do we manifest?

The creative process that is explained in the movie, The Secret is simple to understand yet difficult to master. It was described as having three steps.

1. Ask - This can be just thoughts. They don't necessarily have to be spoken out loud. Think of it as placing an order with the universe. This is a catalogue that has everything imaginable in it and it never has anything on back order. It is all-abundant.
2. Answer - This is something the Universe does on its own. Our thoughts have such power that the Universe simply rearranges things to make stuff happen. It does this effortlessly. It isn't important to figure out how it does it, or how it's going to happen. It just does.
3. Receive - This is the tricky part. This is where it becomes important to be aligned with what has been 'ordered'. It is a positive emotion. There must not be any doubt with it. It is one of the hardest things to overcome, the doubt, but once it happens the rest is easy.

"What you think, what you feel and what manifests is always a match, no exceptions." - Abraham through Esther Hicks

I have have some experience manifesting in my lifetime. I didn't realize I was doing it until recently. What I have been manifesting is relationships. It seemed so natural to me. The funny thing is that I received exactly what I wanted each time. This has made me become very careful with what I ask for now. Why? I'll tell you. The first time I remember manifesting a man in my life I said, "I am ready for a real relationship." This was after a long period of one-nighters. I was tired of them, I wanted something stable. I did indeed get a relationship with a great guy. The only thing was that he wasn't the right person for me. I knew this almost immediately but decided to give it a go and see where it went. Three years later it ended. The relationship was just that, a relationship. Despite the fact that we got along pretty darned good, there wasn't any spark there for me. It's hard to explain.

The next one was right after that relationship. I said that I didn't want to be alone. I needed people around. The next day, I got a call from an old friend who was flying back into town. Her and I go way back and it was refreshing to have someone around. She decided to see what one of our mutual friends was up to and suddenly there was this new guy in my life. That was a relationship and a half. Guess what? He was a bit clingy. He never left me alone. I got to have an old friend to hang out with for a while and a new relationship with a guy who pretty much drove me nuts.

A few years later I was on my own again. I was enjoying myself and having a good time. Then I started that thinking process again. I took more notice of it this time around. It was something I felt. I knew I was ready to manifest someone else into my life. It felt like a window of opportunity. It was like, 'if you don't ask something now you won't get anything'. So I asked. I said, "I want a man in my bed." That weekend, I hooked up with one of the funniest guys I've met in a long time. We started a thing with each other. I'd see him on the weekends when he was in town. We didn't do anything but hang out in my bed. That was it. I got exactly what I asked for. A man in my bed. He didn't want anything serious and I was perfectly happy about that. It dissolved when one of us tried to change what we had into something more. It wasn't meant to be anything more than what it was; what I had asked for. It took me a while to figure that one out.

The next manifestation was one where I decided to get a bit bolder. I asked for, "A man I can share a good portion of my life with." What I really wanted to ask for was 'the one'. I wanted the big one, I wanted the soul mate. I changed my mind at the last moment and asked for this other thing. I got exactly that as well. I met a guy and before I knew it, I was taking him home with me. We got on a plane and stayed with my parents for a few weeks. I got to show him my old stomping grounds where I grew up, what I did as a kid. I got to let him meet my old friends and my parents. Right after that trip, he broke it off with me. Again, it wasn't meant to be anything more than what I had asked for. I had exactly what I wanted. I met someone and shared my whole childhood with him. That was it.

I wonder what would have happened if I had asked for the Soul Mate? If I hadn't chickened out and asked for what I actually wanted. I was ready to ask for it as well, but I didn't. I believe it was one of those life lessons that I had to learn. Don't worry, I did a lot of learning with that relationship. I have done a lot of learning with all of my relationships.

Life is about growing and learning and changing. It's about making yourself better with each challenge. It's a good thing to remember.

The Secret - Movie

I found a wonderful website today about the three universal laws that I have been talking about. The website also had the movie, The Secret that was the original movie before they cut out Esther Hicks and Abraham. I did not know this before and wondered how Rhonda Byrne could have collected a whole bunch of people who used The Secret in their daily lives and manage to miss Esther and Jerry Hicks! If you were wondering the same thing you can read Esther's statement about what happened here.


I have to be honest with you, until tonight I have never seen the movie before. I read the book last year sometime, but never got around to watching the movie. I decided that I really did want to watch the movie and the other night I was talking to a friend of mine and I mentioned The Secret and she told me that she has the DVD. I had no idea she had seen the movie! She offered to drop it off to me, but since I just saw it online I guess she doesn't have to now. Thank you Universe for making it easy!

Watching the movie made me remember all of the things that I should be doing in my life but haven't been applying. I'm very thankful that I was able to watch it and refresh myself about how I can apply The Secret to my whole life.

I hope you enjoy the original movie. It includes Hebrew subtitles.

How do you use The Secret?

I just came across this great video on YouTube and I thought I'd share it with everyone here. It completely summarizes the idea behind using the Law of Attraction in our lives.

Be Happy
Think Positive Things
Be Grateful For Everything In Your Life
Love Yourself





Use the Law of Attraction to attract wealth and prosperity, happiness, love, partners or anything else you want into your lives. Our thoughts become things. Our positive feelings send out vibrations into the Universe. The better the feeling, the higher the vibration. When we are feeling good and vibrating on that high frequency, anything we put our mind to becomes a reality. It's really that simple.

Imagine feeling good every day? Imagine attaining everything you ever wanted in your life? How good would that feel? It feels absolutely fantastic! This is what I want to share with the world.

Some thoughts for the New Year

Every time you praise something,
Every time you appreciate something,
Every time you feel good about something,
You are telling the Universe,
"More of this please. More of this please."
You need never again make a verbal statement of this intent,
And if you were allowing your cork to float - all good things would flow to you.

-Abraham thru Esther Hicks

Excerpted from a workshop in Silver Sprin, MD Saturday, April 19th, 1997.

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As I read this little excerpt today that was posted in the Love forum on the Powerful Intentions website I realized that it can apply to every aspect of our lives. What we put out into the Universe is that which we attract. This is the theory about using the Law of Attraction and the Science of Getting Rich program that I have a link to at the top of this page. By using this simple Law, it is possible to attract wealth and anything else that you want into your life. This is what this blog is all about. I am attracting readers like you to read this blog and to see what I have to say at the same time you have been attracted to this blog because you want to either learn about The Secret, or you want to learn about the SGR program or making some money online. It's as simple as that.

"Allowing your cork to float" is such a good analogy. It simply means that our natural state of being is happy and positive. When we are being true to ourselves and letting our joy and happiness flow through us we are letting our cork float. When we bog ourselves down with negative thoughts and feelings we are pushing that cork under the water. If we let go of those negative feelings our corks will simple float to the surface on their own because that is what they do naturally.

Don't hold yourself down. Don't say that you're 'broke' because that's what you'll be attracting. Money is something that everyone has the right to have and there's more than enough of it in the world for everyone to have their million. Feel good about money and money will feel good about you. Why would it want to line your pockets when you're always putting it down and complaining that you never have any of it? That's not what it likes! Money wants to be loved and appreciated; it wants people to feel good about using it for good things! What would you do with $1000 a day for the next 40 years? What if you couldn't keep any of it and had to spend it? What would you do with it?

Stop and think about how you've been thinking about money (or anything else for that matter) and see if it has successfully stayed in your life. Are there big differences in your attitude towards something good that has stuck around in your life and the things that you always want but never quite get or never hold onto for long? If you can say that there are differences, perhaps it's time to start the new year off with a little adjustment in that department?




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~Rhiannon

What's "The Secret" all about?

The book and movie by Rhonda Byrne were inspired from a book that was created 100 years ago by a Wallace D. Wattles entitled "The Science of Getting Rich". If you would like to read this book, you can do so on-line here.

The Secret discusses the Law of Attraction and how harnessing it can help you create your life the way you want it to be. This may be a new concept for many people but it is a very good idea to hold in your thoughts. The Law of Attraction is something that was introduced to me over 10 years ago by my mother. She is and has always been a sources of spiritual inspiration for me and I will be forever grateful for her many contributions of 'the divine' in my life.

She wrote me a series of emails about three laws that govern the universe. The first is the Law of Attraction, then the Law of Deliberate Creating, and the Law of Allowing. These three laws work in synergism to help to create each of our lives. They are at work whether or not we believe in them or not.

I saved these emails and over the years I have shared them with people who needed to change their mindset about life. They have been read with an open mind and the people I shared them with have been truly grateful.

I went through a bad time in my life and I was constantly thinking negatively about all of the things that have gone wrong and why they went wrong. It was a really poor way to think about things and I had forgotten about the Laws my mother shared with me. It was a deep hole of thought that I believe my inner self was trying to climb out from.

I walked into a store and decided to browse the book racks. I saw a little book called "The Secret" and sort of laughed and wondered what the 'big secret' was? I opened it up and began reading. I suddenly realized just how my negative thoughts were affecting my life and how me wanting to dig myself out of the mess had brought me back in touch with the Laws.

My mindset changed and I realized that if I wanted to be happy, there was nothing stopping me but myself.



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