The Hunt for Someone

Been a while since my last post. I have been doing a lot of growing in the way of my spirituality and things have been getting clearer for me.

It is funny what twists and turns happen in your life when you least expect them. It's like that person, you or me, who constantly try to find the person of their dreams. Their search is never over and they are always sifting through all of the people they meet or putting themselves out there with dating services and other things like that. I have known a few people who have done that and it is always at that moment when they completely give up, when they're so sick and tired of going through the same motions with nothing to show for it, that they find that special someone.

It happens with smaller stuff too, like when you can't remember some important bit of information you were going to tell a friend. As soon as you let go of trying to remember what it is, you remember what it is.

This is what the Law of Allowing is about. It is about letting go and allowing the Universe to work and provide for you what you want. Giving up can be looked at as 'giving it up to your higher self". Another way of looking it is through EWOP (everything works out perfectly). You take a problem and give it up to your higher self to deal with. Trusting in that part of you to take care of it swiftly and easily. Tell yourself that everything works out perfectly and then release the worry.

A friend of mine has told me that she goes through life expecting nothing and is always pleasantly surprised when things pop up for her. She has also told me that she believes that there is more than one soul mate for each person out there. I believe she's right on both counts.

Merry Christmas everyone!

Relationships and Decisions

There comes a point in our lives where we are faced with a tough decision to make. On the one hand, there is the decision that makes sense. It is the decision that is realistic. Then there is the decision that is based on feelings. This one may be skewed either way depending on other factors in the game. The realistic decision is based on fact. If all the facts add up, or if the realistic decision and the decision based on feelings are the same then the answer is easy.

Where it gets complicated is when the feeling and emotion towards a decision is confounded by wants. This can debase the whole decision making process and cause some major confusion. Take, for instance, a relationship. A partner leaving. The partner may have had a just and sound reason for doing so. Perhaps even to the point of it being the best decision for both people involved. However, when the person that has been left ends up wanting their partner back it clouds any sort of decision-making. The person who has been left is absolutely determined to somehow get that person back, even though the best course of action is to let them go. It doesn't happen with just relationships. It happens whenever there is someone who is determined in wanting some particular thing. The difference between wanting a person and wanting a particular thing is "free will".

What if this person wants their partner back and is willing to use everything in their power to get them back into their lives. I've perused the Law of Attraction forums and there are so many people who want to know how to use The Secret to get someone that broke up with them back. To me, this is almost silly. Most of the people who want their partners back admit that they were not perfect for each other. There is usually some fatal flaw in the relationship that has caused the other person to leave it. Wanting to have this person back and using the Secret for it is not the right thing to do. If you believe that everything happens for a purpose, then you must believe that they left you for a purpose. This 'purpose' is not just their reasons for it, it goes deeper than that. It comes down to some lesson that your soul or non-physical self believed that you needed to learn.

Trying to attract a certain person into your life is almost morally wrong. It's like forcing someone to do something that they don't want to do. They left, and then are forced to come back? No, that doesn't sound right. Instead, it would be a good idea to make a list of the qualities that are wanted in a perfect partner - write them down or make a mental list. Then the universe knows exactly what to create for you. Now, this person who left may pop back into your life again because it is the exact person that you asked the universe for, but if it isn't, then you can expect that someone even better will come along. Just trust it.


I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about a recent break-up and I find that if I just write it all down, it helps me gain some clarity on the situation. Hopefully, reading this post will help others gain some clarity as well if they are in the same situation.

How do we manifest?

The creative process that is explained in the movie, The Secret is simple to understand yet difficult to master. It was described as having three steps.

1. Ask - This can be just thoughts. They don't necessarily have to be spoken out loud. Think of it as placing an order with the universe. This is a catalogue that has everything imaginable in it and it never has anything on back order. It is all-abundant.
2. Answer - This is something the Universe does on its own. Our thoughts have such power that the Universe simply rearranges things to make stuff happen. It does this effortlessly. It isn't important to figure out how it does it, or how it's going to happen. It just does.
3. Receive - This is the tricky part. This is where it becomes important to be aligned with what has been 'ordered'. It is a positive emotion. There must not be any doubt with it. It is one of the hardest things to overcome, the doubt, but once it happens the rest is easy.

"What you think, what you feel and what manifests is always a match, no exceptions." - Abraham through Esther Hicks

I have have some experience manifesting in my lifetime. I didn't realize I was doing it until recently. What I have been manifesting is relationships. It seemed so natural to me. The funny thing is that I received exactly what I wanted each time. This has made me become very careful with what I ask for now. Why? I'll tell you. The first time I remember manifesting a man in my life I said, "I am ready for a real relationship." This was after a long period of one-nighters. I was tired of them, I wanted something stable. I did indeed get a relationship with a great guy. The only thing was that he wasn't the right person for me. I knew this almost immediately but decided to give it a go and see where it went. Three years later it ended. The relationship was just that, a relationship. Despite the fact that we got along pretty darned good, there wasn't any spark there for me. It's hard to explain.

The next one was right after that relationship. I said that I didn't want to be alone. I needed people around. The next day, I got a call from an old friend who was flying back into town. Her and I go way back and it was refreshing to have someone around. She decided to see what one of our mutual friends was up to and suddenly there was this new guy in my life. That was a relationship and a half. Guess what? He was a bit clingy. He never left me alone. I got to have an old friend to hang out with for a while and a new relationship with a guy who pretty much drove me nuts.

A few years later I was on my own again. I was enjoying myself and having a good time. Then I started that thinking process again. I took more notice of it this time around. It was something I felt. I knew I was ready to manifest someone else into my life. It felt like a window of opportunity. It was like, 'if you don't ask something now you won't get anything'. So I asked. I said, "I want a man in my bed." That weekend, I hooked up with one of the funniest guys I've met in a long time. We started a thing with each other. I'd see him on the weekends when he was in town. We didn't do anything but hang out in my bed. That was it. I got exactly what I asked for. A man in my bed. He didn't want anything serious and I was perfectly happy about that. It dissolved when one of us tried to change what we had into something more. It wasn't meant to be anything more than what it was; what I had asked for. It took me a while to figure that one out.

The next manifestation was one where I decided to get a bit bolder. I asked for, "A man I can share a good portion of my life with." What I really wanted to ask for was 'the one'. I wanted the big one, I wanted the soul mate. I changed my mind at the last moment and asked for this other thing. I got exactly that as well. I met a guy and before I knew it, I was taking him home with me. We got on a plane and stayed with my parents for a few weeks. I got to show him my old stomping grounds where I grew up, what I did as a kid. I got to let him meet my old friends and my parents. Right after that trip, he broke it off with me. Again, it wasn't meant to be anything more than what I had asked for. I had exactly what I wanted. I met someone and shared my whole childhood with him. That was it.

I wonder what would have happened if I had asked for the Soul Mate? If I hadn't chickened out and asked for what I actually wanted. I was ready to ask for it as well, but I didn't. I believe it was one of those life lessons that I had to learn. Don't worry, I did a lot of learning with that relationship. I have done a lot of learning with all of my relationships.

Life is about growing and learning and changing. It's about making yourself better with each challenge. It's a good thing to remember.

Physical and Non-Physical selves

This is the new book by Esther and Jerry Hicks (and Abraham) that I've been keeping an eye on. I only have read the first 2 chapters since that's all Amazon.com would let me see without purchasing the book. I wanted to share some thoughts on what I read.

A while ago, I was taking an intro philosophy course. I remember the professor lecturing on Aristotle's beliefs about what happens when we die. He told us that Aristotle believed that when we died, our souls went to a place much like heaven to wait to be reborn again. They took all of their experiences during the previous lifetime to this place of soul congregation and do whatever souls do. When the time came for a soul to be reborn, he would bathe himself in "waters of forgetfulness" before leaving the place of souls and returning to earth in a physical body. Now, these "waters of forgetfulness" were such that, if the soul did not bathe himself completely and missed some spots, some of that divine knowledge would go with him into this new body of his. Aristotle believed that this explained why some people were born who seemingly "knew stuff" that others did not. Or, why some people were visionaries beyond their times or why some people were psychic, or seers, or whatever.

The Astonishing Power of Emotions tells us that our non-physical selves come from a place full of pure positive energy. It is our non-physical selves that want to branch out and live in the physical world. This expansion of their awareness is borne from an idea, and from that idea we are born into the physical universe. We do not begin at our births because we exist before our births in a non-physical plane.

A physical body gives our non-physical selves a different point of view. It is the relationship with our physical and non-physical selves that is important. This relationship is what we, as physical beings, need to explore. Our physical bodies are not closely connected to that pure positive energy source that our non-physical selves are a part of. We are but a manifestation of an idea that our non-physical selves put forth in order to expand their own knowledge. Our physical lives are new and bring with them new and different experiences to help our non-physical selves expand. I'm thinking that our non-physical selves are like the light shining through a keyhole onto our lives. By exploring the relationship between our physical and non-physical selves we can make some huge discoveries and open the door and let the light shine in fully.

Personally, I have felt for a while that all of my life's challenges were presented to me in such a way as to make me learn and grow from them. Each of these challenges have been built upon by the one before it. The challenges of learning have been small and on-going, sort of like a "this is what you must do, no questions. Just do it." Yet, I think that the challenges of money in my life have been propagated by my own physical self and the beliefs that society places upon us as to what money is and how one must attain it. The most interesting of these challenges must be the ones of emotion, of love and of relationships. Each of my relationships with men have taught me something fundamental. With each challenge comes transformation. It is how we grow.

If you believe that we are extensions of our non-physical selves, and that we are here to expand our knowledge by having new lives with new experiences, then you are on your way to opening that door.

Some things to think on.